Lillovy

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Solitude and Sanity: How to Embrace Your Inner Strength and Thrive in Difficult Times

DISCLAIMER: 

What you will read below does not replace the professional’s advice, if it is necessary for you to consult professionally, please do. This post is shared only for content purposes due to author’s experience.


 

Because of the recent issues I have been encountering, I sometimes feel like it is too much. And one of the pretty difficult circumstances; aside from the usual daily life occurrences, this one is more serious–at least in terms of family finances.

Seriously, whatever problems a person may have, I have them on my plate. And now I am thinking that if I could just eat my issues, they would just disappear after digestion. However, personal problem is not edible. Its function is to test our strength rather than to fill us with it. On the other side, I believe it instills us with strength.

I hope that anyone who reads this post finds solace for those who are now experiencing difficulties. This is a thoughtful discussion of tips on how to cope with isolation while maintaining your mental health.

I believe that life is challenging, and there are times when we all feel like we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. And having someone to lean on can make all the difference at those moments.

But what happens if you do not have that support system?

How do you keep your sanity when you do not have anyone to turn to? Let us have a look at some techniques to get you through these challenging times.

1. Self-Reflection

When you do not have anyone to turn to, it is critical to form a deep bond with yourself. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. 

What to do: Writing in a journal can be an effective way to obtain clarity and insight into your feelings. You can find solutions to  your problems while keeping your sanity by better understanding yourself.

2. Be with Nature

Nature is always there to comfort us, and perhaps it has a way of calming our spirits and delivering a sense of tranquility. If you are feeling overwhelmed, take a break and spend time outside. Let it wash away your problems, even if only for a little while.

Where to: Take a walk in the park, hike in the mountains, or simply relax by a lake. Allow yourself to be present in the beauty of nature. 

3. Engage in Mindful Physical Activities

Mindfulness in physical activity is a powerful discipline that can help you stay grounded, and focused,  even when you do not have someone to lean on. 

Suggested activities: Try dancing, meditation, yoga, and deep breathing exercises or a simple house chores will do. These techniques can help you relax, reduce stress, and regain a feeling of balance in your life. 

4. Cultivate a Hobby or Passion

When you do not have anyone to turn to, it is important to find joy and fulfillment within yourself. Develop a hobby or follow a passion that makes you joyful. You might say, “But I do not have one.” Hobbies and passions can be learnt thanks to the internet, which today provides tutorial videos at any time and from any location. 

Hobbies? You could attempt painting, playing an instrument, cooking, or gardening. Continue your journaling; who knows, you might find a novel-worthy moment in there. But, more importantly, immersing yourself in activities you enjoy can provide a much-needed break as well as a feeling of purpose.

5. Join Online Communities

While face-to-face support is ideal, the digital era has made it possible to communicate with others even when no one is nearby. Look for online communities or forums where you can connect with others who share your interests and are dealing with similar challenges. Sharing your thoughts, asking for assistance, or simply venting can provide relief and remind you that you are not alone.

Are there any more internet sites outside of Facebook, Instagram, and X? 

Yes, there is Reddit; but, be prepared  because there are users who provide unvarnished reactions, recommendations, and opinions. It is an infamous community platform to join, but you will receive the most honest and caustic critique if you want raw feelings and advice. 

You might also try Noom Vibe or Clubhouse –these are cooler, and the moniker suggests that you would find excellent people there for the same goal. 

CAUTION: Should you join these online platforms please exercise caution to secure your personal information for safety purposes. Your safety and privacy is of utmost importance here. 

You can also enroll in an online class related to your hobby or passion and meet others who share your interests. Who knows? You will get to meet nice people.

Or try to browse free online courses like in Harvard X. They offer free courses, but if you’d like a certificate you can upgrade it later. You can also try MIT Open Courseware ranging from undergraduate to further studies of different discipline. These examples are applicable to those who want to explore new knowledge, like me.

And I’d like to insert this idea that, we have different coping mechanism, what works for me may not work for you. However, it’s still up to us if we are open to changes and personal development, then there is nothing wrong if we try.

6. Practice Self-Care

Self-care is essential for maintaining your sanity. I thought I heard you laugh, but come to think of it, while it’s true that self-caring is a daunting self- duty, it in itself causes our insanity- GIRLS’s sanity as I speak about it. But the magic trick there is ‘enjoyment.’ If we don’t enjoy dollying ourself up, then it is indeed a daunting task.  

For women or men who forget taking care of themselves, like me- I’d like to ask you to look yourself at the mirror, intently please.

Be honest, what do you see?

If you see yourself as someone who needs brushing hair, then do it. Or if you think you’re wearing something old, change something nicer, and throw it. The way you look at yourself, creates a different feeling- there exudes confidence that you may wonder where it’s coming from.

Believe me, I tried doing make up while I am home alone. I did it before I started cleaning the house, and seriously? I took 30 minutes of my time for my home chores. But I was satisfied when I looked at myself in the mirror. And yes, that confidence was there. Don’t you think it was because I look good? I presume it was the reason.

You’re still confused, I know.

Self care—what about it? This could include getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, exercising regularly, and treating yourself to small indulgences-  be pretty in every possi le way you can.

7. Embrace the Power of Resilience

We all know that ‘life is full of problems, and not having someone to turn to can make them seem even more frightening.’ 

Yes, I get that, however, you must realize that you have the inner strength to conquer them. Embrace the power of resilience- believe in your ability to recover and discover solutions; and remind yourself that you can get through difficult circumstances., even when the odds seem stacked against you.

When life throws us curveballs, know how to dodge them by ducking the best way possible. But the logic of this, is that how we react to them is what truly matters. 

So, when faced with the problem of having no one to turn to, remember that you still have yourself. You have the ability to maintain your sanity and come out stronger on the other side- “You need to get to the other side!”

Before you read onto your next article or do something else, here’s a question for you:

“Are you ready to confront life’s problems after reading this?”
“or have you ever overcome a challenging circumstance before?”

If you have something to share, like tips of your own, you may write it your comment for others to read. And if you think of someone needs to learn these tips, please do share it with them.

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Wishing you success,

Lillovy

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